Are you going to practice stress or peace today? A bonita thought for the day.
I posted this question on my bonita facebook account. I am going to try to ask myself this everyday. I have a hard time as the day goes on to remember that I actually have control on how my day is going to go. Granted things happen out of your control. But you can always control your reaction to any situation. I think my biggest challenge is to think first before I react. I tend to just react and then later is when we regret our actions. I always critize my husband about not reacting at things right away. He always seems as if he is pondering too much. Honestly it truly annoys me most of the time. The lack of emotion or reaction to something. What I am starting to realize is that he is just thinking first before he reacts. Although it is healthy to let your emotions go. Perhaps it's the control of our emotions that will help us with stress. Hey we all have stress in our lifes. It just doesn't mean it has to govern our thoughts, body and reactions. Hmm , do I really have control then. Haha easier said then done. I am going to try though. To think first, breathe then react and trust my gut. I think regret comes from not listening to yourself (gut feeling). Just a Bonita thought for the day! xoxoxo Love Bonita!

I say yes, when I mean no and the wrinkle grows!- Naomi Nye.

Oh how the wrinkle grows. To be honest I don't need any premature wrinkles at this point of my life. I have learned to say no. Still find it quite hard. As woman, I think the need for approval is still strong and deep down we want to help others. I think we get so wrapped up on what people will think about us if we refuse. I have to say, as I get older what others think really doesn't matter. I don't want to be rude, thanks to the Catholic upbringing that I had. But I waste too much time on others who do not enrich my life. I want to enrich others lives and want other lives to enrich mine. I say no, when I mean no. self empowerment grows! Lol , I just made that last line up.

Wisdom Wednesdays

" Life is actually really simple, but we insist on making it complicated - Confucius

This quote made me laugh this morning. Life just doesn't seem simple at all. It seems when you have no worries, then yes it sure is simple. Is it the demands and expectations we put on ourselves that makes it so complicated? Do I have to sit in the garden and just listen to the birds sing all day long is that simple enough? Not sure that I can sit still for that long. But today I am going to try not to expect anything from anyone else. Not judge anyone and try not to get worked up about anything today. Let's see how it goes. I am going to try to live today as simple as possible and see what that takes. Although listening to the View, in the background I am getting irritated. First step, turn off the TV.

Just believe!

I recently took a master class in Jazz. My dear friend encouraged me to try. I honestly did not want to do it. The class consisted of trained dancers and the teacher himself sounded intimidating. As I waited in the waiting room, I watched all the ex-dancers come in. I grew extremely uncomfortable. Each of them had that great dancer vibe about them. For myself, I am known as the Zumba (dancing for the masses) instructor. I dance from my passion to dance. Certainly not trained. I danced as a kid, but I complained too much about pain in my feet to my mom. As a result, she withdrew me from dance class. Must have been my flat freaking feet that haunt me to this day.

The class started and I went straight to the back of the class. Luckily the room has no mirrors and low lighting. We started with a real great warm-up. Jose directed his dancers with the french ballet terms. Hello! I never took ballet. I was familiar of the terms from watching all those dance shows. I have to say, I was a little lost at first. I refused to give up. Jose then proceeded to introduce the dance routine. First round, I started to panic. I tried to keep an open mind and step by step I got through it. Jose had great music, he counted the beats like a pro 5, 6, 7, 8! Overall, I learned alot and was inspired by dancing next to real trained dancers! I was also grateful I didn't embarass my friend. I went out of my comfort zone and loved the feeling! Bonita lesson is do not be afraid to try something new. Look fear in the eye. What do you have to lose. Sometimes you just gotta believe.

Bonita in Love! xxoo

Bonitas you don't have to follow the stupid rules society has laid out for Valentine's day. Be free of them and be Bonita!

• Say I love you to family and friends on Valentine's day


• Listen to music you love.

• Wear your most favorite perfume.


• For your significant other, make the I love you about I love us!


• Wear a cute red accessory, especially red lipstick!


• Wear sexy lingerie, even if no one will see you.


• Wear an outfit you love.

• Choose your pet to be your Valentine!

• Do something healthy for you body.


• Don't get sucked into the commercialized nightmare Valentine's day has become.


• Think of things YOU love and are grateful for!


• If you are single make the day about you and what you love to do.


• If you decide to go out to eat, expect to wait. Bonitas be patient!


• Reflect on the different loves in your life year round. Let the expections go for this day.


• Make Valentines day your own. Do not wait for others to make you happy. Make yourself happy and hopefully you will be pleasantly surprised that day.


• Remember things can always be worse.
• www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-relationships-6 (worst Valentine day stories)

Me Time!

OK, I get it. I have been trying to make an effort to meditate. I have tried at least 10 minutes a day. In the morning, night and in Hot Pilates class. I wasn't really getting into it. I was not able to surrender my thoughts. I knew it wasn't going to be easy.
I had a realization reading an awakening quote. Meditation for me is about visiting yourself. Taking the time to be your true self. Without, criticism, negative thoughts, to do lists or distractions of the outside world. It's about being comfortable enough to let all the static noise in your brain go. Taking the time to sit and be as your authentic self. I am not a doctor, but I have experienced what stress can do to the body. Perhaps meditation gives your body a mini vacation. Maybe allowing it to heal within the visit with yourself. I also think we generate the constant thoughts during the day to maybe escape or drown out how we are feeling that particular day. So now I have a new outlook, I see the meditation as a visitation session with myself. I see it as a time to heal. Tapping into what my inner voice and what it wants to tell me. Getting to know the true me. Take the time to listen and heal. With all the static noise in the world and brain, how else will you listen?